How Do You Learn Self Compassion?

This is THE most important question at the heart of why people seek out guidance, because most of us know little about how to be compassionate toward ourselves. Many of us know about “self improvement” and that is more about our lives as a project rather than a process.

The even deeper question is what gets in the way of loving ourselves and how do we meet those obstacles?

Exploring “how” we meet the obstacles to self compassion is essential. Exploring “how” we meet these obstacles reveals how we do anything in our life. That “how” becomes a prism of inquiry through which we filter our awareness.

The ground of wisdom traditions and depth psychological perspectives are here to remind us that we are whole, intact, and good at the core of ourselves to begin with. This is not naive: it is challenging to relinquish even for a moment the idea that we are not broken. It is challenging to give up our narratives of loss, betrayal, unworthiness, sadness, etc. If we can view these narratives as invitations to greater self awareness and understanding, then we no longer have to view them as permanent states of being.

Here’s a guided somatic audio to support your explorations in self compassion.