Enoughness

“It is possible to learn to nurture what keeps us within the gravitational pull of our own “enoughness”. It’s not a matter of adding anything to who we are but rather uncovering the goodness within.” ~Meg Rinaldi

There are those in this world who do not have the basics. The uneven distribution of resources is an ongoing challenge. If we have the means we should address these inequities with generosity whenever we are able. As a Buddhist meal chant says: “Generosity is the virtue that produces peace”.

And there are those among us who have plenty and still feel inadequate. Too often we allow opinions of others determine our value. Some of those “others” include, parents, peers, teachers, partners, just to name a few.

It makes no difference whether someone intended to demean us (and there are those people) rather it’s the meaning we make of the experience that lays down the tracks of memory in our body and mind. It’s the chronic replay that keeps us caught in pain and it is when we attend to the meaning we make, that healing, insight, and renewal flowers.

Then there’s comparison.

Someone, somewhere out there is having the perfect life and if we only had what they have (house, job, partner, car, “spiritual achievements”, credentials, body, etc.) then we will be happy.

Decades ago when I worked as a medical massage therapist, the bodywork table was a great leveler: everyone looked the same and shared the same basic concerns when they laid down on the table.

No one lives a “perfect life” no matter what their social media feed says, so comparing ourselves to something that doesn’t exist is a supreme waste of our precious time and life force!

If we are to become emotionally intelligent adults who wish to be present to life, which is the point of inner work, then we have to let go of our fantasies about a so called “perfect” world.

That process involves acquiring the skills to meet our humanity. Those skills are what help us determine what is “enough” for us. Imagine a world where people were in touch with what is “enough”?

It is possible to learn to nurture what keeps us within the gravitational pull of our own “enoughness”. It’s not a matter of adding anything to who we are but rather uncovering the goodness within.